Ok so a psychologist posted something online about how to get a boyfriend, and I find them quite
hilarious... or let me say ‘some of them’. Am not saying it is not right o, but
I think that Getting a boyfriend does not really depend on how much effort you
put. It sometimes happen that when you put less effort into finding a
boyfriend, that will be the time you will get that special someone. You always
hear people say that they found their recent/best boyfriends or girlfriends in
the least time that they expected. Well, let us check out what was aid in the
article and how right he is.
(1) REMOVE GUYS FROM YOUR FRIEND ZONE LIST :
He says, ‘ "Friend zone"
is a mental classification or categorization of a guy or group of guys in a
lady's mind I.e she sees a guy as a non sexual object or as a brother. Some
single ladies today see having a lot of guys on their friend zone list as
an achievement or an award, they enjoy the fact that guys keep trying to get
their attention or approval while they call him things like "bro" ,
"cuz" , "G" "padi" "Egbon" as a means
to discourage him from trying to talk to them or ask them out.’
Don’t you think
that a lady must have thought about the opportunity of dating him before ‘friend zoning’
him? I understand that ladies are sometimes blind to seeing reality in guys,
but no matter how much you friend zone a guy, there is still a great chance that
the lady can still date him. Before ladies
friend zone a person, she must have realized that she will not be able to date
this guy and would rather have him as a friend than naught. This I guarantee,
especially for ladies who do not have a boyfriend or even someone close to being
a boyfriend.
(2) SMILE OFTEN ; LOOK APPROACHABLE:
I agree, ‘A lot
of guys are discouraged to approach a Lady who has a strong or mean face. Some
ladies attend weddings or fashion shows just to frown their faces, men may be
scared of instant rejection or think you're just mean. Primacy Effect in
Psychology makes emphasis on first impression being an important factor in
perception. So Ladies if your face is strong and your heart is soft make an effort
to smile more.
That is so true,
and YES i am sometimes a victim to that; but most times ladies do these things
because they are shy or unconsciously doing it. Guys should be used to things
like this already, I mean those who have approached the frowning ladies think
they are even the best. But girls that does not mean anything, try to smile as
often as possible and always be approachable.
(3) CHANGE YOUR NORMAL ROUTINE (TRY A NEW
CHURCH, BAR, CINEMA, BEACH) :
Hehe, 100% true, ‘If you're a single lady and you've been
attending the same church, cinema, bars for the past 16 months and there is no
visible suitor I suggest you switch the branch of your church from Ikeja to
Surulere, or Apapa to VI. This is a Process known as randomization; doing
something different or attending new places will give you a new set of
possibilities of meeting new suitors or making new friends generally.’
But ladies, is that true? Will you be able to find a partner
by switching your routine? I need to know please....
(4) ELIMINATE DISTRACTIONS : (Exs, Single
minded friends, friends with benefits etc ) :
‘Exs that just hang around like vultures waiting for drunk
sex to happen again or standing in your way of moving forward need to GO,
"single minded friends " ladies you may have that friend or
"friends" who wants you to be single because she's single too and
it's ok for you to have a boyfriend only when she has a boyfriend, that friend/
friends needs to go, friends with benefits only create a mirage in your mind
because you're being emotionally and physically satisfied but there isn't any
strong commitment so you find yourself in a quandary or dilemma because you're
living for the moment and not the future.’
Well thinking about it, it’s true. These group of people are
only around you to spoil your mindset about certain things and limit your
chances of getting a new guy. Are we right guys?
(5) BE ACTIVE ON SOCIAL
MEDIA :
REALLY!! ‘Some people may disagree but social media when used
properly can be a good medium for meeting people. Some ladies from January to
August don't post a single picture of themselves, their favorite football club,
favorite movie, favorite political party on their BBM or Instagram they are
basically Ghosts and observers. By posting a picture of anything you can
attract a similar mind like yourself for you to at least start a conversation.
It takes just one conversation to start something special.
The same social media has been said to be a platform for lies
and deception, so how am I sure that whatever the guy is saying is true? I mean,
he could just be using it to get my attention. get me to talk to him and give
him my number to become an added disadvantage in my life...
(6) RE-BRAND / REPACKAGE YOURSELF:
While Staying true to yourself and upholding your ideals and
goals. Focus on making yourself better than who you were yesterday by hard
work, eating healthy, networking, working out, SELF LOVE and attitudinal
orientation because if you don't believe in your self no one will believe in
you. Don't let your last boyfriend or relationship define you. A lot of us
still carry scars from our past relationships, this creates a burden in our
minds and impedes our progress.
(7) PRAY:
This is the most Important factor when searching for a boyfriend. Prayer
does things that science cannot explain.
I should also add that it is not all guys you meet that are legible enough to be your boyfriend, and it is also all the girls you meet that are good enough to be your boyfriend.
Guys what means do you think should be best used by ladies as a platform for you to meet each other? Ladies, what is the best way to get a boyfriend? Do you think I am correct?
